I Adequate. Say it with me. Come on you can do it: “I Adequate!”
Life is a struggle at times. We are each parents, children, lovers, professionals, athletes, artists, thinkers, dreamers and so much more. We are complex and unknowable. And we feel like we are never good enough. We are taught from day one that we need to be the smartest, the fastest, the sexiest, the whatever mega-ist. And so we try and try and try and sometimes we really are. And isn’t that grand? There is no elation like success.
There is nothing that beats triumph.
And there is nothing as heart-rending as coming up short. Yet more often than not that is exactly what happens – we come up short. And we then kick ourselves for not succeeding and make ourselves feel even worse. Or even better – someone near and dear to us points out why we failed. Ouch.
Well here is a little secret to make it all better. It isn’t going to make you the world champion. This secret isn’t going to make you win every race. In fact it isn’t even a secret. It is simply a change of attitude, and a change in what we think is success.
We live in a competitive society that measures ourselves against each other. Bobby is smarter than Robbie. Mary is prettier than Maria. Time to change the focus. Make yourself the measure of you. Stop wishing to be Bobby or Mary or whomever is the current measuring stick of the moment. Start being you and enjoying your own life.
So where do we start? Well ask yourself this: “Am I smart enough to live my own life?” The answer is of course “yes”. You are alive and you have made it this far. You have overcome obstacles and challenges and learned lessons that no-one else will ever learn or experience in the same way as you. Your life-story is unique.
So start with this:
- For every ailment under the sun
- There is a remedy, or there is none;
- If there be one, try to find it;
- If there be none, never mind it.
- Start Your Life Here (iadequate.wordpress.com)
- Adequate (wordsfromdic.com)
- Numb (inthependen.wordpress.com)
- The Overview Effect as Perspective Taking (geopolicraticus.wordpress.com)
In the beginning was the word – and the word was adequate.
So how does one move from the path of seeking perfection to becoming adequate?
My own view is you are already there. You are adequate – you just have to accept that you are adequate. First you must BE.
The place to start your life is with a breath. We are first of all simply air. The first action you took when you were born was to breathe. Every moment is another breath, and with your last breath all that is you will end.
Sit down. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Feel the air enter your lungs. Hold it for a second or two. Let it flow out of your mouth in an easy relaxed exhalation. Let it all out until you think your lungs are empty, and then let out a little more. Feel the void, the space of the world around you.
Now inhale slowly through your nose. Slowly filling your lungs with clean fresh air. Hold it for just a moment, savour the life and energy flowing into you. And then exhale as before – slowly, relaxed through your mouth. Do this 3, 4, or how many times you feel like doing this.
Realize there is no perfection in breathing.
We simply breathe to live. Without adequate fresh air we atrophy, wither, die.
We can have all the food, water, money, whatever in the world – yet without air we end.
So just breathe.
- The Breathing Exercise – the one at the start… (bikramyogalimerick.wordpress.com)
- Slow Down (beokaytoday.wordpress.com)
- Inhale and Exhale! (sadafbahadoran.wordpress.com)
- Its Simple- Just Breathe (simplysweetholistic.wordpress.com)